#16 Life is not a shape, not a line

I'm reading The Alchemist, Paulo Cohelo, and I was hit with something that I had learned long ago, 3 cat lives ago.

"when someone sees the same person everyday, they wind up becoming a part of that person's life. And then they want that person to change. If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own." (P.16)

When you don't have something, you're forced to look at your situation differently. If all you have is $20 then you will be more motivated to think outside the box. When you move to a different city, you need to make friends. So you find things to talk about that are different then your normal ideas. You talk to strangers. You sign up for online groups.

When can't have kids, you look for other ways of being involved in your life. Instead of thinking that the be all and end all is 'settling down and having a family', you are forced to look around and see situations that would have never occurred to you on your one track mind.

So you move, maybe to Italy.